Getting What You Want
by Alexandra Windsong, December 2009
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At some point in time it's happened to all of us. There is something you really, really want. You want it so badly you can taste it. Whether it's a relationship, a promotion, a new career, the accomplishment of a lifetime goal, the attainment of a particular lifestyle or the acquisition of a shiny new "toy", whatever it may be, you know it's not only what you want but what you need. You know it's right for you and nothing short of exactly what you want, the way you want it will do. And so you set about making it happen. Perhaps you used the law of attraction, the power of positive thinking, affirmations and visualizations. Or, maybe you took another approach through, prayer, ritual, meditation or ceremony to focus your will and intent. Or, maybe you created a concrete plan of action to help you get what you wanted. You may have tried one or all of the above. You may have done everything "right".  You may have even come very close to getting what you want, but you still didn't get it. Sucks doesn't it?

So why didn't it work? What could have possibly gone wrong? Aren't we supposed to be able to manifest everything and anything we want if we just "go about it right"? Well, that's the theory anyway. But it in real life it doesn't always work out that way.

Of course there are many reasons why we might not get what we want . . . maybe we are blocking the very thing we want with our own insecurities, beliefs, or lack of clarity about what we want and/or need; maybe we don't believe we can have what we want; maybe we don't feel we deserve it; maybe we don't know how to effectively co-create with the Universe to manifest what we want; maybe . . . fill in the blank with any number of things that interfere with our ability to effectively manifest what we want. But sometimes, no matter how focused, positive and clear you are, or how deeply you believe that you can manifest what you want, and no matter what you do, the Universe just says no! Why? Because sometimes the Universe just has other plans, and, sometimes, those plans are more wonderful than anything we could possibly imagine or dream of ourselves.

This happened to me most notably a few years ago with something I really wanted that umm, obviously, I didn't get, or I wouldn't be mentioning it here. And believe me I wanted it bad. I did everything I possibly could to manifest the outcome that I wanted. But, it didn't quite work out the way I wanted it to. And boy was I unhappy about that. Now before you think, well, maybe she just doesn't know how to manifest things, it's important that you understand that I'm quite good at manifesting. I have manifested and accomplished some amazing things in my life, often in the face of what some might call insurmountable odds, and with little or no significant emotional, mental or financial support from others, and despite people telling me it couldn't be done, or that I couldn't to it.

But this thing I wanted a few years ago, I just couldn't make it happen, no matter how hard I tried or what I did. And believe me, I used every manifestation tool I knew of, within ethical boundaries of course, but to no avail. I still didn't get what I wanted. And at the time, I was one unhappy camper let me tell you. I simply couldn't understand, how this thing I wanted so much and that I knew was so right for me, this thing that I knew was meant to be, just wasn't happening. If you had told me then that I would later be grateful that I hadn't gotten what I wanted, I would have told you to go fly a kite. But, that's exactly what happened.

Several years later, I one day found myself saying thank you, thank you, thank you to the Universe for saving me from myself. 'Cause sometimes what we want, just isn't good for us. I'm reminded of a saying that is meant as a curse in some cultures, "May you get everything you want." And that's exactly what it would have been for me if I'd gotten what I wanted back then, a curse rather than a blessing. In my case, what I wanted was a particular outcome in a particular relationship, a relationship that I had in fact manifested but that wasn't going exactly the way I expected. Now for those of you who think, aha, that was the problem, she focused on a particular person....well, not quite. I manifested the relationship itself initially as I focused on what I wanted in a relationship, or what I thought I wanted at the time, not on a particular person, and let's just say it still didn't quite work out the way I thought it should.

And it may have taken a while, but eventually I was able to see that a higher wisdom than my own earthbound personality and ego had intervened and saved me from myself. For given the opportunity, I would have continued in that relationship I wanted so badly, and while I may have been happy for a brief moment, in the long run I would have been very, very, unhappy. But I couldn't see that at the time. All I knew then was that I wasn't getting what I wanted. And I was a bit put out to say the very least.

Now, several years later, I have the perspective, clarity and experience to see that situation in a new light. For not only would I not have been happy in the long term if things had worked out according to my plan, getting what I wanted in that particular instance would have prevented me from exploring some very interesting opportunities that have come my way since then, all of which I have learned from and have enriched my life greatly in one way or the other - opportunities that I wasn't even able to conceive of all those years ago.

In manifesting the life I deserve, I now focus on being open to the opportunities that are aligned with my inner peace, happiness and well-being, rather than a specific concrete outcome. And that has worked out much better for me. I have learned that sometimes, by focusing too much on the thing we want, or the door that has become closed to us, we can't see all the other wonderful opportunities that are available to us, all the other doors that are wide open just waiting for us to walk through them.  I have learned that sometimes what we want, isn't always right for us, even though at the time we may think that it is. I have learned that not everything that we do manifest should necessarily be followed to it's "ultimate" conclusion, that sometimes it's just one of many experiences for us to have in this life, and that what we perceive to be the goal or objective may simply be a stepping stone to another level of self-awareness and understanding, merely another step on the journey. I have learned that the wise person knows how to co-create with the Universe and go with the flow, changing course when necessary rather then being fixed on a particular outcome. And it has become clear to me that sometimes, no matter how much we want it, how hard we may work for it, or "work to manifest it", whatever it may be, that sometimes, the Universe has other plans, and those plans are more wonderful and exciting than anything we could possibly have imagined.

A gifted healer and intuitive, Alexandra sees clients by appointment and teaches classes at The Healing Way in Frederick, MD.
Alexandra will be teaching a workshop on "Co-creating with the Universe" in the Spring of 2010 at The Healing Way.

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